Finding Compatible People for Sexual Relationships

---  finding compatible people for sexual activities and sexual relationships, even love

The content intended for this page is still being written, but for now please look at the CASA Proposal .  While that is a proposal for a business venture, it will provide a free service for anybody.   You might also be interested in the page on  finding friendship , finding romantic love , or finding roomates and housemates .

This page is underconstruction, but briefly this project has an important area of application in solving the problems of loneliness and sexual frustration through finding people compatible sex partners.   Although the Internet and World Wide Web have an overwhelming and absurd number of sex-oriented sites, few of them make any real attempt to find sexual partners for people.  Most are just selling pictures.   Indeed the avidness of people to look at pictures of people they don't know posing in provocative poses or having sex with other people they don't know is a truly remarkable phenomenon, rather sick, but remarkable none the less.   It also helps pay the rent, because of the vast numbers of people who surf the web for pornography, thus supporting sex sites with advertising revenue, as well as bringing in money by actually selling pictures -- vicarious experiences for real money.

This is not an accident or evidence of  people's depravity or a terrible sin -- it is the futile attempt of  people with strong built-in animal lusts (that have served well to propagate our species for millions of years) living in a world which confines and restrains them with an almost equally overwhelming social pressure for legal monogamous relationships.   While not wanting to come down on either side of the issue, this project will almost certainly put most of the sex websites out of  business by ensuring that people can find real sexual experiences with real people very easily .  That could lead to an explosion of promiscuity, but it probably won't, because this project will also find people love, true love , just as well, and most people will find that relationships with both sex and true romantic love are infinitly better than either alone.

This is much more important than it may sound -- few of us ever experienced true sexual compatibility or true romantic love, to say nothing of the rare combination of the two .   We have almost no way of imagining what either near-perfect sexual relationships or near-perfect romances would be like, and the idea of finding both in one person is little more than an impossible dream -- up till now.   The mathematical software being developed and tested on this website will (among many other things) find people almost perfectly compatible sex partners.   Some may like to experience that by itself for a while, but they will almost certainly go beyond it to the nearly perfect combination of sexual and romantic happiness that will be made available to them.

Please participate in our project -- it is basically a research project trying to join the real world, but we take it very seriously and plan to offer this free service continuously as we steadily improve the research prototype into a fully operational system.

The mechanism for performing such miracles is described on the (old) index page and the first steps in that direction start with the What Do You Want form.  (Currently that form is only available in a "browser challenged" format intended for browsers without frames, cookies, or javascript.  A more convenent version of  the form aimed at modern browsers will be available shortly.

For an older page dealing with this topic please see Doug Wilson's page entitled one-in-a-million matches

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Copyright © 2009   Douglas Pardoe Wilson

Other relevant content:

New: Social Technology through Diagrams

New: Social Techs novel online

New: Social Technology Blog

New: Social Technology Wiki

Please see these web pages:

The main Social Technology page.

Find Compatibles , the key page, with the real solution to all other problems explained

Technological Fantasies , a page about future technology

Social Tech a page about Social Technology, technology for social purposes.  I think I was the first person to use this phrase on the Internet, quite a long time ago.

Roughly corresponding to these web pages are the following blogs :

Social Technology the main blog, hosted on this site, with posts imported from the following blogs, which still exist and are useable.

Find Compatibles devoted to matching people with friends, lovers, jobs, places to live and so on, but doing so in ways that will actually work, using good math, good algorithms, good analysis.

Technological Fantasies devoted to future stuff, new ideas, things that might be invented or might happen, such as what is listed above and below.

Sex-Politics-Religion is a blog about these important topics, which I have been told should never be mentioned in polite conversation.  Alright that advice does seem a bit dated, but many people are still told not to bring up these subjects around the dinner table.

I believe I was the first person on the Internet to use the phrase Social Technology -- years before the Web existed.

Those were the good old days, when the number of people using the net exceeed the amount of content on it, so that it was easy to start a discussion about such an upopular topic.  Now things are different.  There are so many web pages that the chances of anyone finding this page are low, even with good search engines like Google.   Oh, well.

By Social Technology I mean the technology for organizing and maintaining human society.  The example I had most firmly in mind is the subject of  Find Compatibles , what I consider to be the key page, the one with the real solution to all other problems explained.

As I explained on my early mailing lists and later webpages, I find that social technology has hardly improved at all over the years.   We still use representative democracy, exactly the same as it was used in the 18th century.  By contrast, horse and buggy transporation has been replaced by automobiles and airplanes, enormous changes.

In the picture below you will see some 18th century technology, such as the ox-plow in the middle of the picture.  How things have changed since then in agricultural technology.  But we still use chance encounters, engagements and marriages to organize our home life and the raising of children.  

I claim that great advances in social technology are not only possible but inevitable.  I have written three novels about this, one preposterously long, 5000 pages, another merely very very long, 1500 pages.  The third is short enough at 340 pages to be published some day.  Maybe.  The topic is still not interesting to most people.   I will excerpt small parts of these novels on the web sometime, maybe even post the raw text for the larger two.

This site includes many pages dating from 1997 to 2008 which are quite out of date.  They are included here partly to show the development of these ideas and partly to cover things the newer pages do not.  There will be broken links where these pages referenced external sites.  I've tried to fix up or maiintain all internal links, but some will probably have been missed.   One may wish to look at an earlier version of this page , rather longer, and at an overview of most parts of what can be called a bigger project.

Type in this address to e-mail me.  The image is interesting.  See Status of Social Technology

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I have used a series of e-mail address over the years, each of which eventually became out of date because of a change of Internet services or became almost useless because of spam.  Eventually I stuck with a Yahoo address, but my inbox still fills up with spam and their spam filter still removes messages I wanted to see.  So I have switched to a new e-mail service.  Web spiders should not be able to find it, since it is hidden in a jpeg picture.   I have also made it difficult to reach me.  The picture is not a clickable link.  To send me e-mail you must want to do so badly enough to type this address in.  That is a nuisance, for which I do apologize, but I just don't want a lot of mail from people who do not care about what I have to say.


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What Do You Want?

What Do You Want Now

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